Underlying our actions is the need to impress people.
Where do these thoughts and actions come from.
They seem to just appear at the oddest times.
More often than not, the thoughts arise from deep seated issues hidden within the mind from childhood days and surface when we are feeling unsure and need reassurance and acknowledgement of what we have accomplished is worthy of praise.
We tend to look to others for confirmation and acknowledgement of a job well done.
It seems we forget to tell the most valuable part of us that we are happy with what we have accomplished and achieved .
Our self.
We tend to give that responsibility over to someone else. We rely upon verbal acknowledgement from others, instead of allowing that knowledge to come forth from within us. We want to hear it from the mouths of others. To be directed at us. To be reassured that we are doing the right thing. Rather than allowing it to come from us, from the knowledge of self within.
I remember an episode from childhood where we were at my father’s work enjoying a family day outing. On this particular day I was in a race with other children of my own age bracket. My mum, dad and siblings were cheering me on to win. Mid race my shoe fell off, so I stopped and retrieved my shoe, put it back on and then completed the race. Of course, I came last. I was happy in myself because I had gone back to pick up my shoe and then continued on.
As a child we have memories, emotions and expectations which are quite different from an adult viewpoint and mindset. It’s funny because I was very pleased with myself with my conduct over the shoe incident, but my brother was disappointed and told me I should have just kept running and I know as a parent that my parents were disappointed in the outcome as well. These lovely people had invested in me emotionally and had expected a better result.
The need to impress seems to come from these childhood issues of emotions, disappointment, of having let people down and not being good enough. These thoughts and feelings of a child have been processed and left on a shelf in the mind, to surface when unsure of the decisions made.
It is time to acknowledge the child processes and incorporate them in with the adult knowledge, wisdom and thought patterns. The need to impress seems to come from childhood experiences and as a child we have limited understanding of all that is taking place around us.
I am sure my parents and brother have not dwelled on this seemily minor episode in my life.
I can tell you it underlies my life.
We are forever learning and growing mentally and spiritually.
Stop looking outside of self for confirmation.
Look within.
We do not need to impress others with our talent or receive their token acknowledgement. Sometimes we do not receive any response, which leaves us feeling flat and dejected.
We should be looking inward to acknowledge to ourselves what we have achieved. Goals met, a project finished.
What more could you want.
To acknowledge to self that you are happy and ecstatic with yourself after completing writing your book, manual, sewing, crocheting, building a model or being up to date with house hold duties.
Give yourself a break.
A smile will transform you.
Acknowledge self at all times and you will have no need to look to others for that feeling of self worth and acknowledgement of work well done. You know in yourself that you have done well and that in itself will change the way you feel.
Accomplished.
Pleased.
Ecstatic and one with self.
The emotion is true.
The emotions and feelings coming from self are wonderful and pure
. Truly uplifting.
They are your feelings. Positive and radiant.
Acknowledge self on a daily basis.
Heal the child processes stored within and connect to self.
Who do you need to impress ?, the answer is no-one.
Acknowledge and work with self.
Be who you are.
Shine with your own essence of who you are.
Be connected.
Stay connected.
Honour self.
There is no need to impress.
Be yourself.
You know you have achieved a goal or reached a milestone when the positive uplifting feelings flow up from within you. You feel wonderful. You feel happy and full of joy. Your inner most self has acknowledged your achievements . It is now time for the head to acknowledge what the heart of self already knows. Work with your self mentally and spiritually.
Achieve your aims.
Meet your goals.
Acknowledge your own self worth to yourself.
Be you.
Grow and mature and connect and work with self.
All is contained within you.
Be.
As I was saying earlier, when I was running in the race I stopped. I picked up my shoe, put it back on and continued with the race.
In myself I was very happy for I did what was right for me, which was to retrieve a lost shoe and worry about the race afterwards. My shoe was more important.
I could not have run the race with only one shoe on. I would have been at a disadvantage anyway. I made my choice and in looking back over this incident, I would not change how I dealt with the situation. I did what came natural to me.
As a child I saw and felt my family’s disappointment and I had taken that on board. It seems that I have always been looking for acknowledgement in doing the right thing and looking for approval outside of my self. I did not have to look so far a field. This sense of self and sense of self worth has been nearer than I thought. It is within me all day, everyday.
Self intuitively acknowledges all that we do. We just need to take the time to tune in and listen and connect with our self more often.
We have all that we need within our self.
Connect.
Radiate.
Grow
with
Self.
Be who you are.
Be one with self.